Kitty Chat

First off.. I did not write that piece, ''Apples and Wine.'' It was sent to me from a male friend who thought I would see the humour in it, living in a wine and apple-producing region, as I do. He sent it when I had just had a severe blow to my ego, having been dumped, and I mean from on high, by a love-interest. (NOT my husband, remember, I left him...ok?) I appreciated the sweet thought, because at the time, Christmas 2004 or so... my head really WAS all about, "Men are shit."

I stumbled across this much later in one of my laptop's folders so thought I would try posting it. It was already written, it was humourous enough and I figured a friend of mine in Florida would appreciate it having just gone through a nasty break-up... (yes, she did.) I actually found at the time I posted this, (and still do find) the piece both equally offensive and amusing... because, honestly, if one WAS to switch the genders in the piece, how amusing would it then be?

So I posted it and have I left it up because it has generated a lot of dialogue, e-mail and comments.

On the one hand, I get people who call me a 'man-hater', a 'radical feminist hell-bent on the destruction of men and masculinity in the 21st Century for my own misanthropic, and possibly lesbian, goals that I am sure to pass on to my daughters.'

I can just see the foam and spit fly from the impassioned writer's mouth when I read things like that... honestly!

I also get women... and men... who see the humour in the piece, it generates a smile, maybe a chuckle, then they move on.

You know that saying that you can prove or disprove anything with exactly the same data? That it is all in the presentation, how you choose to focus, colour it... how you can fit what you have to the hypothesis? What is your ultimate goal? Nip and tuck to fit.

(Maybe why the Bible gets such a bad rap; you can use that to both prove and disprove just about anything.)

Well, so how it is with this silly piece. I actually had a person on a Forum point to the ''Apples and Wine'' posting to ''Prove'' what a horrid and despicable person I most obviously am at heart.

Come on...

However, as I said to someone else... you have every right to think the way you to choose to do so, that is your right as a human being. That is not 'permission', that is just acknowledgment of this basic, human right, the right of Free Will. Furthermore, your opinion of me is really, frankly, none of MY business. It will not change the way I prepare dinner tonight, nor the way I brush my hair, nor the way I enjoy the sunshine on my face.

People's opinions about me are pretty unimportant, especially people I will never, ever interact with, nor meet, in real life.

Anonymous posters on some internet forum are completely insignificant. I had to remind myself of that fact, as I felt under attack by this bully.

So, remember gang, don't take stuff to heart when people are deliberately nasty. It just might be they have PMS, had a fight with their loved one, got dumped on at work, or just generally had a bad life experience... and, for whatever reason, they are taking it out on YOU.

 

...or he really COULD be a fat, virgin, 30-something, acne-ridden, anti-social geek in his parent's basement...

I will leave you to guess what I counsider most likely. :-)

(...and I only refer to YOU, AdmV, with that comment... no one else. I LIKE men. However, especially after your attacks on me , I don't consider you worthy to be called a man, frankly. Worm, yes. Man... no way, not by a LONG shot.)